Marriage

I am more than slightly disturbed by how many people I know from back home that are getting divorces.  I mean the successful marriage rate down there is probably only 33% or less thanks to all these inconsiderate idiots who think marriage is some game.

Marriage is sacred.  Marriage is supposed to be a LIFE LONG COMMITMENT not just so you can get you some and then leave them if you don't like what you're getting.  For better or for worse.  If you're just going to waste something so intimate and beautiful, don't mess with getting married.  You might as well just stay boyfriend/girlfriend so you can have that break up cheaper and won't be tainting the sacred name of 'marriage.'

I hate saying this but maybe if we legalize gay marriage the successful marriage percent will go up.  I would much rather see two people happy and in love getting married than some kids who just want to have sex.  It's not even just young kids.  I watched my whole life people get married then divorce a year or so later just to date then marry their friend's ex.  In some cases, I understand it and with my own parents I wish for it.  Still my point is marriage has become CHEAP.  What kind of world are we living in?!  You have a kid.  Think about that kid and that poor partner before you decide that oh I like this guy/girl, I think I want to get a divorce so it's ok I can sleep with that person.

I apologize for this.  I've seen at least 50 divorces among people I know and how it affects their kids who just grow up to do the same thing.  A good friend of mine back in high school, her parents were married, had their kids, then divorced, then remarried, then divorced again, then remarried again, then divorced and finally remarried to different people only to divorce them and remarry a couple more times.  Two kids I've known my whole life that are my brother's age just recently divorced.  They have a beautiful kid and that guy could have had any girl he wanted, but he chose her because he loved her.  While he was working to provide for her and their child, she decides its not her cup of tea and now that they're separated, she's loving that she's back on the market and has been on a couple dates with one two guys who knows.  Taking all those sexy pictures of herself and posting them online for her now ex-husband to see all of this.  And what this guys says after all this is all I need is my boy and I'm happy.

I foresaw all of this because that girl her father and mother have each been divorced 3 times a piece.

There's a reason behind why Clint and I have dated so long before getting to where we are today.  We're happy and we work through our problems.  We are by far not perfect.  WE've had our close ones that was almost the deal breaker.  But with some effort from both of us, we've pulled through it all.  We both firmly believe that for a successful marriage, you have to be together for at least a year before being engaged preferably 2 yrs before engaged, have a big fight to see how you handle it, a few small fights, etc.  If you can't survive those fights, then marriage is out of the question.  I guess why all this disturbs me so much is because when it's my big day, I don't want people betting on how long our marriage is going to last because that's how much of a joke marriage has become down there.  I pray that my sister's will last and that she's making all the right commitments.  Not just for her but for this guy who has been head over heels for her since she was 14 and for her little boy and future baby on the way.

So if I overhear anyone betting on how long we're going to last, I will punch you in the face.  Or if you're a guy possibly knee you in the balls.  Again I apologize about this, but take those last two sentences as a promise.    Shows some of the reasons why I had to cut ties with the people I know from back home.  The home that my dad is still mad at me for not wanting to get married there.   Had to say this so I won't do something stupid.  Peace.  Praying for God's will not mine.  That He will continue to rain down blessings on me and I pray for encouragement for Clint in his work situation right now.  Hostile bosses are not fun.  I also pray that my wedding day be what the Lord wants for Clint and I.  And that it doesn't rain on whatever day we end up choosing.  lol  

Also praise the Lord it has almost been a year since my terrible concussion.  I'm so thankful that I'm still alive today.  Still have the occasional headaches, metabolism is getting back to normal (I hit the back of my head where most of the parts are that regulate my metabolism), the swelling there is slowly going away.....more importantly for a long time I wasn't myself due to that accident.  But I'm working my way back, the good ole Trella is coming back.  Thankful to be alive so that I can hopefully marry my best friend (God willing).  Thank you Lord for letting me live and overcome that concussion and post-concussion syndrome.  And please help me to continue to get past all of that, I had a security guard coworker who had the same condition and still has it 9 yrs later.  People don't realize how bad off I really was.  Clint and I both wouldn't let them see it.  I asked for prayers back then but apparently I asked the wrong person.

Anyhow thank you Lord for my life, for my Clint, for everything.